These past few weeks, my boyfriend and I have been in a cycle of constant arguments, making up, and then repeating the same pattern. This has been going on for two months now. We had a conversation where we considered pausing our relationship, but we always found ourselves talking and meeting again.

The thing is, we are both big dreamers — he’s currently studying Accountancy and planning to pursue Law after, and I’m studying Dentistry while also working on the side. Most of the time, we’re tired, but we still make time to meet and talk. However, because we’re both stressed and exhausted, we often end up arguing.

I know we’re both to blame for the arguments, and I can see how hard he tries to be patient with me. So, these past few weeks, I’ve constantly been wondering: when is the right time to let go of a relationship? It’s hard to even think about, especially when you care deeply for someone and have planned a future together. I can’t imagine starting a life without him — but maybe that’s exactly what I need right now.

Honestly, I still don’t know the answer. But maybe the moment I first asked that question was already the right time.